Getting over someone.

You sit there, years after it happened, with a drink in your hand, wondering what you could have done differently. You sit there dwelling, with the full awareness that you're wasting time (again).

Let me tell you, there is absolutely nothing you could have done differently.

If that love you had, was something you had to, not compromise, but sacrifice! Sacrifice parts of yourself for. Gave your all into, such that you had no more time to invest in yourself. Many people, like you, get so involved in their love that they don't notice that they have forgotten about themselves. Sometimes they do notice, but they put that thought away in the back of their minds. Why? For the sake of commitments like children and family? But how about you?

Love isn’t supposed to be giving yourself up completely for the person or the family. That’s very unhealthy. It would never have worked that way no matter what, it was going to crash and burn eventually. Your needs need to come first. And you need to start with that right now.

Let me tell you, that by wasting time dwelling over wasted time, you’ll waste even more time and you won’t get that back either.

You’re SUPPOSED to put yourself first. Even when you’re in a relationship, your needs are still the most important to yourself. That is not wrong! The right partner will know and never fault you for this because he/she will also put her needs first when it is important to do so. That’s how a mature relationship will be. It’s common to get so wrapped up with our partner and unknowingly start ignoring our own needs. Don’t beat yourself up for that.

You can't regain wasted time. But you can do anything you want with the time you have right now.

You’re going the right way now, and you’re growing upright. You’re doing the right thing now. All those things you did for him/her that they never appreciated or took for granted? Don't stop doing them just because it wasn't appreciated. Because You can do it for yourself now. You deserve it. Remember that. You deserve it.